Co-Parenting with an Addict Ex-Spouse
is often a tragedy that a family has to cope with. It presents a challenge for
all the parties involved. However, there are situations where the degree of
difficulty is drastically increased. One such situation is if your ex-spouse is
the ex-spouse is addicted to something, the divorce may be seen as a relief.
However, if there are kids involved, one has no choice but to share parenting
responsibilities with the ex-spouse. This situation can present some
complications, some of which are enumerated below.
The Addicted Parent has Trouble with Committing to Schedules
its definition, an addict has become dependent and is unable to function
normally without the fixation. As a co-parent, addicts often fail to keep a
commitment even if it were mutually agreed upon by both parties.
a divorce setting, this could result in conflict or even legal implications.
Custody is a legal matter and the judges impose that the schedules be followed
to the letter.
Child may be Exposed to Harmful Substances
with addicts, they are likely to use harmful or toxic substances. Without the
contentions of the other parent the addict co-parent may leave their drugs or
even the paraphernalia in the household premises, within reach of the child.
Regardless of the child’s age, this is never a good thing.
are more Prone to Negligence
the child is dependent on a parent who is, in turn, dependent on something
else, his needs may not be the first priority of the addicted co-parent. Thus, there
would be times when the addicted parent would neglect the child’s meals or, in
some cases, prescribed medication.
to Cope with an Addict Co-Parent
are necessary steps that a parent needs to undertake in order to cope with this
challenging situation. It requires cooperation between the parents, the law and
even the children.
the Safety of the Child
safety and security of the child is not negotiable. Thus, tests should be
administered prior to awarding joint custody or even visitation rights for the
as much as Possible
soon as the child reaches a reasonable age of responsibility, the parent should
provide a mobile phone or other reasonable means of communication. The child
should be trained to document any incidents while in custody of the addict
Hesitate to Take Legal Action
any negligence and/or violent behavior has been recorded, there co-parent
should promptly inform the authorities. This will enable the revocation of
custody or visitation rights if necessary.