Considering Couples Counseling
Is it still worth it or is it time to let go and get a divorce?
Here are some signs that maybe it’s a good idea to go counseling first.
You can usually talk it out
If you and your partner rarely argues and can usually fix things with a conversation, it’s probably a good idea to talk about things before making a big decision. After all, there will be a lot to talk about. Remember that your children are also affected among other things. It’s best to have a smooth divorce.
You’ve never had a proper conversation for a long time
I know that this may seem like the antithesis of the first one, but, if you haven’t had a good talk with your partner for a long time, maybe it’s time to do so. Maybe a conversation is all you need to smooth things out and counseling can definitely help. In counseling, experts will be there to mediate so you really drive at the important issues.
There’s been cheating
If infidelity is the reason of the break-up, it’s best to go to counseling first. Cheating can stir up all sorts of emotions. This betrayal can bring up emotions that cloud judgment. A professional mediator would know best how to navigate the issues.
You are just angry
You and your partner may be angry at each other for reasons other than infidelity. It’s not good to make decisions when angry. Making big decisions such as a divorce must be made with a clear mind. Anger is such a strong emotion that can push us to make drastic decisions.
Couple therapists are trained in dealing with relationship issues. They are trained in listening, observing, assessing, and intervening. If you are already determined to break it off, counseling can still help in addressing unavoidable issues brought about by the divorce. If you are unsure about the break-up, even more so. There just might be some problems that need to be discussed.
There’s no harm in going through this, right? At least you can say to yourself that you’ve tried all that you can.