It’s a well-documented fact that most children dislike change. So, when their parents’ divorce and they find their routines affected, it could be challenging for everyone. There are guidelines in place under family law in Texas that help parents to do what’s best for the children when custody issues are being ironed out. Having to go back and forth between two homes (if parents share custody) can be stressful, but it doesn’t have to be when parents agree to co-parent their children positively.
Many adjustments to make
One of the biggest changes in a shared custody situation is children having two homes. Parents have to adjust to the new way as well and with respectful communication, co-parenting can be a positive experience. One of the most important things to do is to keep in contact with the children while they’re at the other parent’s home via text messages, video chats, emails, etc.
Parents need to care for themselves, too
When the children are at the other parent’s place, the empty nester parent should take time for some self-care. During this time, that parent may want to think about any unrealistic expectations he or she might have of the children when they return. Of course, a parent will miss the kids, but children may not be demonstrative of missing him or her, so creating some activities centered around coming home time might be a great idea — things like watching a movie, baking some cookies or playing a board game.
Divorce affects everyone. When parents agree on a parenting plan, the transition for children may be much less emotionally fraught. A good parenting plan addresses such things as health care, school, parenting time and custody. There are times, however, when parents can’t agree, so getting independent advice from a Texas lawyer experienced in family law may be in order.